I was judging this weekend and had a very nice time. There were some issues with the opinion of the course design on Sunday. I had helped with the designing of the courses for the ring I was judging. The ring was almost square and it was not very long. The equipment was beautiful and many jumps, which added a challenge for where to put them. Trying to do a nice job for everyone involved, I plowed forward with doing the best job I could.
Turns out there was one very strong person who decided “these courses are crap”. My intention was certainly not that, so I was taken aback when she jumped into my booth, as I was judging and informed me she was going to redo the courses.
There could have been a number of different ways to accomplish the same outcome that would have been easier or more appropriate than how she barged in and took over. I questioned myself as to why it felt so awful for the 20 minutes I stewed over it. I was doing the best I knew at the time, I was asked to help, and I did. I came to the decision that if I wasn’t the course designer, it wasn’t my fault when people had trouble, good for me.
So why do people get so emotional and uncaring as to what the other person might feel? We are really all working to produce a good horse show, Take a few seconds especially when the juices are running hard and fast to stop take a breath, and think of the big picture. Will this be important in one year? Five years? How can I express myself to respect the other person? Together there will be a solution, let’s work together.
That is my “rant today, and I hope you get the idea that there is a lesson in everything, and it is our job to process it for ourselves. Have a great one. I leave you with a quote from one of my favorites, enjoy.
Start telling a better-feeling story about the things that are important to you. Do not write your story like a factual documentary, weighing all the pros and cons of your experience, but instead tell the uplifting, fanciful, magical story of the wonder of your own life and watch what happens. It will feel like magic as your life begins to transform right before yours eyes, but it is not by magic. It is by the power of the Laws of the Universe and your deliberate alignment with those Laws. —Abraham